I took my dog, Max out for an early morning stroll the other day, the sun was shining and the snow was melting away quickly and creating large areas of water, large ponds, wet mud holes.
We hit high ground where it was nice and dry and then I came upon a mucky, dirty, dank, boggie watery mud hole.
There were places I could see where I could tread, but I didn't want to walk in, wade in, because I knew the water was cold, my feet would get cold and wet. I would see and feel the water covering my trainers, the cold water seeping in, drenching my socks, leaving me feeling total discomfort, irritable and impatient as I wanted to get through it as quickly as I possibly could. My pant legs (trousers) would be drenched, mucky, dirty, clinging to my legs. Getting messy. Getting bogged down in the mud, losing my balance as I navigated my way out of it.
Firstly, I tried tiptoeing around the edges getting caught up in the branches from the trees, caught off balance and my feet went in the water anyways. If only I could skirt round it I'd be fine I thought, but it was taking too long, I was wasting time and holding back because I didn't want to experience the discomfort of the situation. I didn't want to jump in with both feet. I wanted to avoid it at all costs.
But I didn't want to go back and take that familiar path either, I didn't want to back track. Waste time trying to find an easier way. I'd been there, done that. I knew that path, familiar, routine, no challenges. I just didn't want to take that easy route again.
I could see where I wanted to go, where I wanted to get to. I wanted to experience something new. More adventures, new challenges. I could see it was dry on the other side of it, it was better, it was an unknown path, but I was willing to do it.
But I was determined to do it, regardless of the outcome. I just went for it. I walked straight down the middle, feeling the water envelope my feet, but I did it anyway. I ploughed through. I got to the other side, wet, muddy, dirty, but happy. Because I knew it was temporary, the discomfort I felt would be shortlived. It was just great getting to the other side.
As I carried on walking I realised this is how we face life. We try our upmost to avoid any pain and discomfort at any cost. We try and take the easy route, so we're not challenged, we don't want to face our fears, we would rather gloss over them and pretend they don't exist. We sweep them under the carpet and try and get on with life.
We stop ourselves moving forward because of the stories we tell ourselves, but what if you knew the pain and discomfort was only short lived, only temporary. To be able to push through that discomfort to get to the other side successfully with a new vision, a new version of you, an upgrade in your beliefs and values, a new life that aligns with you.
You've hit that brick wall for the last time. You've hit it too many times. Feeling frustrated, disappointed with yourself. You are yearning for change. Fed up with doing the same thing over and over again as you watch the days, weeks, months change, but you don't.
Sometimes you just have to be brave enough and courageous enough to wade in if you really want that transformation in your life.
To be brave enough to look it dead in the eye. To face it head on. To take a different path not the one well travelled, not the easy route. To push through and walk through the obstacles there paving your new path, the one that is in alignment with who you truly are. What you truly want and desire. The one where you get to decide how you live your life.
But you constantly hear the stories that keep you stuck...
You don't feel appreciated. You feel used. You always go for the same guy/girl. You don't feel enough. You're not worthy. You have no confidence, self esteem. You don't trust yourself or your judgement. You don't feel validated. Nobody understands you. Nobody believes in you. Nobody supports you. You feel guilt and shame. You've tried everything and nothing works. You feel old. Too old to change. You don't feel sexy enough. You don't feel beautiful enough. You don't feel smart enough. Nothing will change, I can't change.
These are the stories you tell yourself each and every day. These are the stories that keep you stuck. This is the pattern that repeats itself over and over again because there is no resolve.
What if you decided to do things differently?
What if...
You decided to step out and step away from your old life and embrace the new, the one that you create that makes you thrive, rejoice and enjoy waking up each and every morning glad that you are alive living your dreams. Being your authentic self?
You found the confident, the courage, the sudden clarity that you, and only you have, that power to change the way you think and feel about yourself and how you live?
You decided enough is enough. You can't stand any longer being and feeling the way you are. Not feeling enough, not feeling validated, respected, listened to?
You decided to listen to your own intuition, your own gut feeling and got things done?
The realisation nobody can save you, or rescue you, only YOU can come to your rescue by becoming a powerful influence in your own life. You take hold of the reins. You steer yourself, direct yourself, discipline yourself. YOU become your own cheerleader because everyone else is caught up in their own story.
And on the other side.....
You feel great about yourself, empowered, proud that you finally took that step. You took that giant leap of faith to trust and believe in yourself. You made it happen even when nobody believed in you.
You had the courage enough to step off that hamster wheel and give yourself permission to have a totally different perspective on live.
You gave yourself permission to live that good life to evolve and grow.
If you are truly looking to change I can help you.
I can help you..
Get to where you want to be!
Create it and help you navigate through it. To get past the fear of the unknown. The obstacles and stories you put in your way. The things that are holding you back. Be able to see the bigger picture.
If you are truly ready for a change.
Contact or email me.
Love always.
Julia